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Published November 16, 2009 History , Treatment 6 CommentsTags: bone marrow transplant, chemo, recovery
The site is back up with the comments and posts restored. Still working on design and other features.
Please go to http://www.friendsofgeraldine.org
For the past week, a friend has been helping us work with the backup database for FoG. Now we have it all back and hosted on a different server. We really just wanted to make sure that we could get to all of the posts and comments as soon as possible.
MANY thanks to my friend Tom Wilk. He doesn’t know Geraldine very well, but when he heard what happened, he jumped in the thick of things to get the database restored.
As you can see, the pictures are gone and the formatting looks a bit funky in places, but we do have all of the raw data back. With some cleanup and design elements back in place, we’ll be good to go in no time.
This post was from the temporary blog at http://friendsofgeraldine. wordpress.com
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Hello, friends.
I want to bring you up to speed on what has happened to the site FriendsofGeraldine.org and let you know what our plan is moving forward.
First let me say that the amount of questions and comments that I’ve received have really surprised me. I knew that a large group of people supported Geraldine, but I had no idea how many people would notice any changes to the site so quickly. Thanks for your support of this website.
Now to address some commonly asked questions:
What happened to the site? We host the site on a friend’s server. His account was hacked into and they deleted everything, including this site and his entire portfolio (he’s a full time freelance web developer – http://www.littlerobothead.com)
Who did this? That is unclear at this time. It could have been a random attack. However, the night that it was destroyed I received a couple of anonymous, harassing emails from someone using a gmail account called shouldbemorecareful@gmail.com. They deleted the account that night, however, rarely are email addresses or the computers that use them untraceable. And they unknowingly left one detail in the source code of their email that clearly identified them. I won’t be going into details, but I will share this with the authorities as they investigate this case. Still, the attack may be unrelated and completely random. We’ll leave that to law enforcement to figure out.
Did you backup the site? Not entirely. Three of us worked to build this site, and each of us have different pieces in our hands. That is just to rebuild the framework and design of the site, including features such as donation and donation tracker widgets. As I believe I posted in an early entry for FriendsofGeraldine.org, we had plans to release the entire template as a free, open-source package for other folks to be able to create their sites for non-profit fund-raising. As Geraldine’s transplants approached, we all became more focused on helping her through that. We had plans to work on the template later this year. As for the posts, those were written on the server only. There’s a database that allows you to save all of your posts and comments and links and any other pieces of information from any browser, computer, or location – with multiple contributors. This is what makes blogs so effective for telling a story. I’ve been told by the hosting company that I can purchase a backup copy of the database from them to restore all of this. I’m working to get this all back online ASAP. I will keep you posted. We may not have lost anything! 🙂
Have you tracked down the person responsible? We’re working on it. Because I have to work through another person (I don’t own the hosting account) it tends to slow things down. Our friend that hosts the site had his entire livelihood temporarily destroyed in the process. He is working to put the stuff that he pays his bills with back together first. I can’t blame him. In the end, all sites will be restored, his and ours. We just need to be a little patient in the meantime.
Who would do something like this? As I said before, it could have been a random occurrence. It could also have been related to the harassing anonymous emails that I received that night. Hackers tend to break into sites and just alter them slightly. Most of the time they leave a nickname or handle as a calling card in order to show their friends that they did it. Hackers don’t usually delete entire servers and sites. To us, this seems personal, but we’ll leave it to the authorities to handle. Hosting companies and law enforcement have ways to easily track down a person that does this sort of thing. It will just take time.
Why would they do something like this? There’s a lot going on in Geraldine’s life. This blog isn’t the place to talk about it. This blog is only about keeping a record of her fight with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma, bone marrow transplants, hospitals, insurance companies, etc. We really don’t want to go anywhere else with this site. So, we won’t go into details on why. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. Nothing will keep this story from being told. Nothing will keep this site down. 🙂
What happens now? Now we rebuild. I hope to have the database recovered within a week. The design of the site will come together about the same time. We will relaunch, comments and all, very soon. Stay tuned.
Hello, friends.
I want to bring you up to speed on what has happened to the site FriendsofGeraldine.org and let you know what our plan is moving forward.
First let me say that the amount of questions and comments that I’ve received have really surprised me. I knew that a large group of people supported Geraldine, but I had no idea how many people would notice any changes to the site so quickly. Thanks for your support of this website.
Now to address some commonly asked questions:
What happened to the site? We host the site on a friend’s server. His account was hacked into and they deleted everything, including this site and his entire portfolio (he’s a full time freelance web developer – http://www.littlerobothead.com)
Who did this? That is unclear at this time. It could have been a random attack. However, the night that it was destroyed I received a couple of anonymous, harassing emails from someone using a gmail account called shouldbemorecareful@gmail.com. They deleted the account that night, however, rarely are email addresses or the computers that use them untraceable. And they unknowingly left one detail in the source code of their email that clearly identified them. I won’t be going into details, but I will share this with the authorities as they investigate this case. Still, the attack may be unrelated and completely random. We’ll leave that to law enforcement to figure out.
Did you backup the site? Not entirely. Three of us worked to build this site, and each of us have different pieces in our hands. That is just to rebuild the framework and design of the site, including features such as donation and donation tracker widgets. As I believe I posted in an early entry for FriendsofGeraldine.org, we had plans to release the entire template as a free, open-source package for other folks to be able to create their sites for non-profit fund-raising. As Geraldine’s transplants approached, we all became more focused on helping her through that. We had plans to work on the template later this year. As for the posts, those were written on the server only. There’s a database that allows you to save all of your posts and comments and links and any other pieces of information from any browser, computer, or location – with multiple contributors. This is what makes blogs so effective for telling a story. I’ve been told by the hosting company that I can purchase a backup copy of the database from them to restore all of this. I’m working to get this all back online ASAP. I will keep you posted. We may not have lost anything! 🙂
Have you tracked down the person responsible? We’re working on it. Because I have to work through another person (I don’t own the hosting account) it tends to slow things down. Our friend that hosts the site had his entire livelihood temporarily destroyed in the process. He is working to put the stuff that he pays his bills with back together first. I can’t blame him. In the end, all sites will be restored, his and ours. We just need to be a little patient in the meantime.
Who would do something like this? As I said before, it could have been a random occurrence. It could also have been related to the harassing anonymous emails that I received that night. Hackers tend to break into sites and just alter them slightly. Most of the time they leave a nickname or handle as a calling card in order to show their friends that they did it. Hackers don’t usually delete entire servers and sites. To us, this seems personal, but we’ll leave it to the authorities to handle. Hosting companies and law enforcement have ways to easily track down a person that does this sort of thing. It will just take time.
Why would they do something like this? There’s a lot going on in Geraldine’s life. This blog isn’t the place to talk about it. This blog is only about keeping a record of her fight with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma, bone marrow transplants, hospitals, insurance companies, etc. We really don’t want to go anywhere else with this site. So, we won’t go into details on why. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. Nothing will keep this story from being told. Nothing will keep this site down. 🙂
What happens now? Now we rebuild. I hope to have the database recovered within a week. The design of the site will come together about the same time. We will relaunch, comments and all, very soon. Stay tuned.
Friends of Geraldine is down
Published March 13, 2009 History , Website ClosedTags: hacked, rebuild
This is what we posted on FriendsofGeraldine.org after the site was destroyed
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Hello, friends.
This site, FriendsofGeraldine.org, was attacked recently. We believe that it took place some time between the evening of March 12th and the morning of March 13th. The data for this site, including all blog posts, images, and links were deleted. This is truly devastating.
We have some backups of the design and a few of the posts. It will take a while to rebuild, and there will probably be large chunks of data that may never be recovered. As this was an ongoing journal chronicling many months of Geraldine’s story, the content isn’t easily backed up. Our first priority is to recover those blog entries, and then we will try to put it all back together. The design and content was truly a collaboration, so pieces of it are in different hands. It’s sort of like building the site all over again. Even with the blog entries, we’ve lost the dates, times, links, comments, donation tracking, and other pieces of the story that made this blog unique. There’s still hope, however, that we may get a clean backup of the entire site. Stay tuned for more info as it develops.
We’re sorry for this inconvenience. We’ll be back with some form of this site as soon as possible.
Welcome to the site. In case you’d like to catch up, I’d start with this post. It is a letter written by Andrew, who is Geraldine’s father. It really nicely sums up the situation before we started this blog.
Other helpful historical information to have on hand is that this site was created and is maintained by Geraldine’s friends Nick, Pete, and Malcom (that’s me). Nick and Pete worked on the design, hosting, and setup of the site. They worked especially hard to get the donation utilities built. I am the main poster here, and am always sure to provide updates when Geraldine is unable. We are in this because we promised our friend that her story would be chronicled, no matter what the outcome may be, so that her daughter would have a record of everything that happened.
We work on this project, as always, in our spare time.
Currently, Geraldine is undergoing her second bone marrow transplant. The first one ended only a few weeks ago, and took about a month and a half. She has been fighting this battle for about a year and a half at this point. She hates being away from her daughter for too long, but she loves it when you leave her notes of encouragement. Please note, however, that some comments are moderated on an as-needed basis.
Thank you for your continued support.
Don’t forget to check out this post! It’s very helpful.
Brace yourself kids, this is going to be a long one. I am home now and things are starting to get back to normal. Viviane has been with me and I can’t tell you how wonderful it is to have her in my life again. She is doing awesome and is happy to be back to her routine. The month of December was very hard. Not only with my first bone marrow transplant, but having the added stress of things going on in my personal life did not create a positive emotional recovery. I know that there are certain things that are beyond my control, but rest assured that I would never wish the things that have happened to me to anyone. Its especially hard when you are fighting for survival to have moments when you are vulnerable and weak. You seek love and support, but that is also the time that you reach out and find the people that make a difference in your life. Everyone who has called me, emailed me, visited me, and texted me have all contributed to my recovery. Viviane and all of you are my lifeline. I would like to take this opportunity to thank each of you.
Viviane – You are the love and light of my life. You are the reason that I will beat this. I love you with everything that I have and that will never change.
Andrew and Martine – You both are wonderful parents. You have shown and taught me the meaning of unconditional love.
Malcom – You are my foundation of strength. You are always there to help me pick up the pieces and rebuild me.
Harvey – I feel the love and support that you continue to send even being miles away. Thank you for everything that you have done for me.
Allie, Katie, Risa, Sara, Brooke, Amy, and Courtney – You are my sisters. Thank you for comforting my broken soul and helping me heal. All of you inspire me to be better. I am so grateful for all of your friendships.
Kim and Candis – “my circle sisters” 🙂 – You fill my life with humor, laughter, and sugar. You are both amazing women and I am lucky to have you. Thank you for sharing your life with me.
Pete and Ron – what would I do without the both of you? Thank you for your love. You both are a part of my heart.
Nick and Sha – You are my husband and wife 🙂 – You bring me joy and warm my soul.
Mary – You are the voice of reason and an incredible mother. Thank you for being so nuturing.
Megan – You are so brave. You give me strength and hope that everything will get better.
Gwen – little brother – you amaze me. I have such fond memories of my childhood with you. Thank you for being part of my family.
Drew – You drive me crazy, but I have love for you. Thank you for being so giving.
Diana – my PPU – You are so loving. Thank you for always reaching out to me.
Chrissy – You are the disturbed in my life. Thank you for checking in on me and giving me some much needed comic relief. God bless you.
Katina – You are my gangsta. I love you dearly and miss you. Don’t let Malcom talk you into anything and remember that you got that killa P.
Crystal A – Where do I begin? Thank you for your weird sense of humor and your husband (who is not a good boyfriend).
Emily – ” I am a doctor, so…..” – You rock! I could not have made it through this transplant without you. Thank you for being awesome.
Cat – You are my supermodel P****. I want to grow up and be just like you! Thank you for everything that you have done for me.
Darren – My snuggle. Thank you for visiting me and giving me such emotional comfort.
Boris – Thank you for all of your emails. Its so nice to hear from you especially after all of these years.
Craig K – You are straight up silly, but I love it. Thank you for all of your texts.
Libby, Sara W,Emily H, and Sabine – I can’t even describe how much it means to me that we were able to reconnect. Thank you for your emails and words of encouragement.
Ann Lee – You are a remarkable woman. Thank you for your visit and all of your cards. I love you.
Neil, Brenda, and Lois – You are a wonderful family. Thank you for all of the love that you have shown me.
Susanne – Thank you for the bond that we share. Its nice to know that we have each other and that we are not alone in our dark times.
There are many more people that I would like to thank. More to come soon. Thank you to everyone. I feel such amazing love from each of you.
A recap of the situation from Geraldine’s father, Andrew
Published August 11, 2008 History Leave a CommentTags: diagnosis

Geraldine and her daughter Viviane
Last September, Geraldine was diagnosed with Type 2B Hodgkin’s disease, a cancer of the lymph system. The Type 2 means that it had not spread to other organs and was confined to the Lymph system. At that time, there was some question about a nodule in the lungs which showed up on the PET scan. This was eventually considered to be in the lymph node in the lung; if it was in the lung tissue it would have made the diagnosis a Type 4 (the highest rating). The standard treatment for Hodgkin’s disease is chemotherapy (chemo for short) using a cocktail of four drugs known by their initials, ABVD. The success rate of this treatment for Type 2 Hodgkin’s disease is 86%, defined as surviving more than 5 years. Geraldine had been in pain for months prior to treatment, and initially the ABVD treatment reduced the pain significantly. This was interpreted as an indication that the treatment was working. A second PET scan in December confirmed that things were better, but the two main areas of disease were still present. Geraldine had the chemo every two weeks; it took about four hours for the process. She would be totally exhausted for two to three days, but was then able to go to work. This was important psychologically as it kept Geraldine in the real world. Viviane had a similar positive effect on her.
In February, Geraldine started to have pain again in the same place as before. A further PET scan at the end of the treatment cycle (12 sessions) showed that the primary tumor was active again, but showed nothing else active. Geraldine’s oncologist, Dr. McGaughey, proposed that Geraldine have an autologous stem cell transplant – autologous means that the stem cells are her own, not a donor’s. The process is as follows: Geraldine would undergo 3 three-day sessions of high-dose chemo (the initials of this cocktail are ICE) to bring the tumor into remission. They would then stimulate Geraldine’s bone marrow to produce stem cells which float into the bloodstream. They would then be harvested by pumping out the blood, filtering it, and re-injecting the blood. They then give her extremely high dose chemo (BEAM) which kills off all of her bone marrow, all of her white cells, her ovaries (instant menopause) and leaves her extremely sensitive to any kind of infection.

Geraldine and Vivi
The harvested stem cells are then re-injected into the body where they migrate to the bone marrow and eventually grow back. This procedure is carried out as an inpatient in a special part of the hospital. Geraldine would be in a sterile room for about three weeks and then would have to remain near the hospital for about another three weeks. Full recovery would be an additional three months. We visited Dr. Chung at VCU in Richmond to evaluate his program (Geraldine’s insurance does not cover this treatment in Norfolk), and we were shocked at the high level of risk involved. In addition, the chemo had had an cumulative effect on her and she was exhausted. I was concerned that she had neither the physical nor mental force to survive such a treatment.
Given the invasiveness of the procedure, we sought a second opinion and went to UVA to see Dr. Williams – a really well-known specialist in the field. He recommended that we try targeted radiation next, and Dr. McGaughey agreed. Geraldine therefore started a course of 20 radiation treatments aimed at her upper chest and neck. Geraldine supported the radiation well and started to put on some weight and to get stronger.
She also started to get stronger mentally (this is more important for cancer patients than physical strength).
Unfortunately, after an initial reduction of the pain levels, the same old pain came back. Dr. McGaughey did not want to make a definitive diagnosis without another PET scan, so we had to wait six weeks for the radiation-induced inflammation to die down to avoid a false positive result. During this waiting period, Geraldine was experiencing more and more pain, so we were not surprised when the PET scan came back positive. However, the small secondary area in the lung is now also active. Again, Dr. McGaughey proposed an autologous stem cell transplant.
We went last week to visit Dr. Shea, head of the transplant unit at UNC, Chapel Hill. He disagreed with the proposed treatment and recommended an allogeneic stem cell transplant – allogeneic means that the stem cells come from a donor. He told us that he expected that the cure rate (survival for five years) for an autologous transplant was only 15-20%.
He believed that the cure rate for an allogeneic stem cell transplant would be about twice that: 30-40%. We asked him to start the process for finding a matching donor because this can take up to three months, believing that we can make a final decision later. The difference with the autologous stem cell transplant are as follows. The initial cocktail is the same, but because of the increased risk, Geraldine would be in the sterile room for four weeks after the transplant, followed by the obligation to remain near the hospital until 100 days after the transplant. Full recovery would be about six months. During the first 100 days, they expect that there will be several occasions of a crisis requiring rapid treatment or hospitalization. A caregiver(s) must be identified and agree to rest with the patient for this time. Listening to Dr. Shea explain the horrible side effects of the treatment and the low probability of success was one of the worst experiences of my life – I can only imagine how much harder it must have been for Geraldine.

Geraldine and her daughter Viviane – Easter 2008
Dr. McGaughey was initially against this treatment, citing the increased risk of rejection. Fatal side effects occur in autologous stem cell transplants in about 5% of cases (usually within the first three weeks – that is why the hospital insists on the patient remaining in the area following the transplant). However, for an allogeneic stem cell transplant, the initial fatality rate is about 20% (usually within the first 100 days). Dr. McGaughey contacted his alma mater, Duke, and was surprised that the Duke experts also believe that an allogenic transplant gives Geraldine the best chance of survival.
We will be going to UVA to see Dr. Williams tomorrow for his opinion.
We know that he has recommended to Dr. McGaughey that he take a needle biopsy of the small tumor in the lung to make sure that we are still dealing with Hodgkin’s disease and that it has not mutated into something else. He also suggested a different chemo cocktail (GIN).
At this moment, we assume that Geraldine will start chemo on August 4, although we do not know which cocktail (ICE or GIN). We assume that Geraldine will have a transplant, but do not know which. If the needle biopsy indicates that Geraldine’s cancer would not respond well to a stem cell transplant, we would cancel everything, including the ICE or GIN. We know that a stem cell transplant would take place at either VCU in Richmond or UNC in Chapel Hill. At this moment, our preference is for Richmond as it is closer. This would facilitate visits from friends and make our task as caregivers significantly easier.
What are Geraldine’s chances? At this time, it would seem that out of five patients like her, one will die within the first 100 days of an allogeneic stem cell transplant, two more will die in the following five years and two will be cured. If she cannot have the transplant, they would move to a regime of reduced chemo and perhaps radiation aimed at prolonging her life as long as possible and trying to give her a decent quality of life. They have not told us how long she might survive like this.
This has been an extremely difficult time for us. Martine has been looking after Geraldine, on occasion almost like a baby because she was so weak. I have filed for FMLA and have had a lot of time off in order to help Geraldine by going to doctor visits and treatment. I have canceled most of my travel (trips to Tennessee, New Mexico, California, India and Brazil) to support Martine. Our expectation is that the coming months will be even harder on Geraldine and on us. However, we are committed to do everything we can to help Geraldine beat the cancer. I only hope it will be enough.
Andrew
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